Happy Diwali

A Story About Appreciation

One young academically excellent youth went to apply for a managerial position in a big company. He passed the first interview; the managing director did the last interview to make the final decision.

The managing director discovered from the CV that the youth's academic result was excellent all the way, from the secondary school until the postgraduate research, never had a year he did not score.

The managing director asked, "Did you obtain any scholarship in school?" and the youth answered "none".

The managing director asked, “Was it your father who paid for your school fees?" The youth answered, "My father passed away when I was one year old; it was my mother who paid for my school fees."

The managing director asked, “Where did your mother work?" The youth answered, "My mother worked as a cloth cleaner. "

The managing director requested the youth to show him his hands. The youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and perfect to the managing director.

The managing director asked, “Did you ever help your mother washed the clothes before?" The youth answered, "Never, my mother always wanted me to study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can wash clothes faster than me."

The managing director said, "I had a request, when you go back today, go and clean your mother's hands, and then see me tomorrow morning."

The youth felt that his chance of landing the job was high. When he went back, he happily wanted to clean his mother's hands. His mother felt strange, happy but mixed with fear, she showed her hands to the youth.

The youth cleaned his mother's hands slowly, his tears dropped down as he did that.

It was the first time he found his mother's hands were so wrinkled, and there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises incited pains so strong that shivered her mother's body when cleaned with water.

That was the first time the youth realized and experienced that it was this pair of hands that washed the clothes everyday to earn him the school fees. The bruises in the mother's hands were the price that the mother had paid for his graduation and academic excellence and probably his future.

After finishing the cleaning of his mother's hands, the youth quietly cleaned all the remaining clothes for his mother.

That night, the mother and son talked for a very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to the managing director's office. The managing director noticed the tears in the youth's eyes and asked: “Could you tell me what had you done and learned yesterday in your house?"

The youth answered, “I cleaned my mother's hands, and also finished cleaning all the remaining clothes."

The managing director asked, “Please tell me your feeling."

The youth said,

Number 1, I knew what is appreciation, without my mother; there would not be the successful me today.

Number 2, I knew how to work together with my mother, then only I can realize how difficult and tough to get something done.

Number 3, I knew the importance and value of family relationship.

The managing director said, “This is what I am asking. I want to recruit a person who can appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the suffering of others to get thing done, and a person who would not put money as his only goal in life to be my manager. "

You are hired.

Later on, this young person worked very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates, every employees worked diligently as a team, making the company's result to improve tremendously.

A child who has been protected and habitually given whatever he wanted, he would develop "entitlement mentality" and would always put himself first. He is ignorant of his parents' efforts.

When he started work, he assumed every person must listen to him. When he became a manager, he would never know the sufferings of his staff and would always blame others.

For this kind of people, he can have good academic results, and may be successful for a while, but eventually would not feel the sense of achievement. He will grumble and full of hatred and fight for more.

If we are this kind of protective parents, did we love the kid or destroy the kid?

You can let your kid lived in a big house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them experience it.

After a meal, let them wash their plates and bowls together with their brothers and sisters.

It is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but it is because you want to love them in a right way.

You want them to understand, no matter how rich their parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as the mother of that young person.

The most important thing is your kid should learn how to appreciate the efforts and experience the difficulty and learn the ability to work with others to get thing done.

Eid Mubarak

FIGHT BAD BREATH!

There's a reason Dracula ran from garlic: The stink. Oh, the stink! Even if you're not a major garlic lover, it's no secret that bad breath can quickly cause those around you to flee for the hills. Banish those funky fumes with these simple tips.

EAT FRUITS AND VEGGIES

While some foods trigger offensive breath, Dr Michael Apa, DDS, says some fruits and veggies actually can counteract foul-smelling breath. "Celery, carrots and apples are high in vitamin C," he says, "which prevents gum disease and gingivitis and kills odor-causing bacteria. These fiber-rich fruits and vegetables help fight halitosis."

When dining out, Kevin Jorgensen turns to his drink garnish. "Ask for a lemon with your water. Bite the lemon just as you would a lime when you do a shot of tequila. Swish it around your mouth while scraping your tongue with your teeth, then swallow," he suggests. But he cautions not to make this a habit, because the acid will eat away your enamel. Apa explains why this works: "Citrus and other acidic foods increase saliva production. These foods cause your mouth to produce more saliva, which acts like a cleansing agent, keeping your mouth moist and rinsed out."

CHEW ON HERBS

Look to your garden for some breath-improving options. "Coriander, spearmint, tarragon, eucalyptus, rosemary and cardamom are good for fighting bad breath. You can chew on these or put them in a tea," suggests Apa.

Dr Laurel Clark, president of the School of Metaphysics, votes for parsley: "Chewing fresh parsley leaves works great! Drinking parsley tea is also good; it helps [improve poor] digestion, which is often the cause of the bad breath."

Sandra Lira also uses this method after eating garlic but reminds people to check the mirror for green teeth.

Stella Metsovas, BS, CCN, offers another natural remedy: "One of my top recommendations for curing bad breath is using oil of oregano or supplementing with encapsulated oregano. [Oregano] is considered one of the most potent, cure-all herbs. Studies have shown it to be a protective force in diminishing unfavorable bacteria in the mouth. Oregano has also been proven to fight against dental plaque -- a leading factor of bad breath."

SWITCH TOOTHPASTES

Dr Harold Katz, founder of The California Breath Clinics and the author of The Bad Breath Bible, suggests trading sodium lauryl sulfate toothpaste for a brand that has only oxygenating compounds, which helps kill the bacteria responsible for triggering bad breath.

DRINK WATER

We know water is good for our bodies, but it's also important for avoiding bad breath. As Dr Edgard El Chaar clarifies, "Moisture found in the mouth helps keep it clean. Oral moisture also dilutes and washes away the waste products that oral bacteria produce."

BRUSH YOUR TONGUE

Various tongue cleaners have made it onto the market, but according to dentist Kimberly McFarland DDS, MHSA, your toothbrush will work the same. "The papillae (hair-like) projections that are more noticeable on the middle to back third of the tongue tend to have more bacteria around them.," she says. "These bacteria need to be removed so the bad odor they can produce is not a problem."

CHEW SUGARLESS GUM

Gums and mints are classic options and easily accessible. Apa says, "A quick fix is sugarless gum. It won't replace brushing, but it can mask odors and increase saliva production to rinse away plaque and bacteria."

Dr Nushin Shir of Santa Monica, California, also recommends that people choose sugarless. She says, "Avoid products that contain sugar to prevent the accumulation of plaque, the bacteria that causes decay, gum disease and bad breath."

IT IS REAL AND VERIFIABLE ...

Vander Hoven, a psychologist from Netherlands, announced his new discovery about the effect of reading the Qur'aan and repeating the word ALLAH both on patients and on normal persons. The Dutch professor confirms his discovery with studies and research applied on many patients over a period of three years. Some of his patients were non-Muslims, others do not speak Arabic and were trained to pronounce the word 'ALLAH' clearly; the result was great, particularly on those who suffer from dejection and tension. Al Watan, a Saudi daily reported that the psychologist was quoted to say that Muslims who can read Arabic and who read the Quran regularly could protect themselves from psychological diseases.

The psychologist explained how each letter in the word 'ALLAH' affects healing of psychological diseases. He pointed out in his research that pronouncing the first letter in the word 'ALLAH' which is the letter (A), released from the respiratory system, controls breathing. He added that pronouncing the velar consonant (L) in the Arabic way, with the tongue touching slightly the upper part of the jaw producing a short pause and then repeating the same pause constantly, relaxes the aspiration.

Also, pronouncing the last letter which is the letter (H) makes a contact between the lungs and the heart and in turn this contact controls the heartbeat. What is exciting in the study is that this psychologist is a non-Muslim, but interested in Islamic sciences and searching for the secrets of the Holy Quran Allah, The Great and Glorious, says, We will show them Our signs in the universe and in their ownselves, until it becomes manifest to (remember me in your Dua) ALLAHU AKBAR Allah is great Allah keeps me going day and night. Without Allah, I am no one. But with Allah, I can do everything. Allah is my strength.' This is a simple test. If you love Allah and you are not ashamed of all the great things that He has done for you, let everyone knows this, May Allah help u to succeed...Ameen

Malaysia 53rd Independance Day

How to Catch a Liar

by Reader's Digest Magazine, on Thu Aug 12, 2010 11:49am PDT

Are you being lied to? Find out how you can tell.

How is the person speaking?

Although a change in voice can be the tip-off to a lie, experts say that to be sure, you should also pay attention to a person's speech rate and breathing pattern -- if either speeds up or slows down, chances are you're not hearing the whole truth.

What is the person saying?

Liars tend to avoid exclusionary words like "but," "nor," "except," and "whereas," because they have trouble with complex thought processes. Liars are less likely to use the words "I," "me," and "mine." In their attempts to distance themselves psychologically from their tall tales, liars will tend to communicate using fewer personal pronouns.

Is his face giving it away?

You may think disguising your true feelings is easily accomplished with the help of a smile, but the expressions that flash across your face will give away what you're really thinking -- whether you know it or not. Experts advise paying close attention to the micro-expressions that a face can't hide. These clues are often so difficult to detect that even trained experts have trouble discerning them.

How is the person smiling?

A smile can sometimes mask a person's true feelings. Pay close attention to how a person smiles as well as other facial movements. You may be able to detect the emotions he or she is trying to hide -- such as fear, anger, and disgust. A true smile will incorporate both a person's lips and eyes.

Does the body language follow the story?

It's more important to examine a person's entire demeanor, as there's no one feature that's apt to give away a liar. Honesty is characterized by features that are in sync with one another -- so besides posture, note the fit between face, body, voice, and speech.

Is your subject behaving uncharacteristically?

Experts believe changes in a person's baseline -- how she generally conducts herself -- are worthy of your attention. You should weigh rate of speech, tone of voice, posture, and hand gestures against what you know, along with the context of the situation.

Is the question simple or embarrassing?

It's normal for someone to look away when asked a difficult question. But when someone avoids your gaze when asked a simple question, you should be suspicious.