If Love Finds You

If you find yourself in love
with someone who does not love you,
be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else
in love with you and you don't love him/her,
feel honored that love came and called at your door,
but gently refuse the gift you cannot return,
do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love
is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another,
and he/she falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love.
Love chooses you.

All you can really do is,
accept it for all its mystery
when it comes into your life.
Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person
who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others
who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you
in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love,
they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places
that will be filled by love,
and they begin to look at love as
something that flows to them
rather than from them.

The first blush
of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools,
they revert to seeing their love as need.

They cease to be someone who generates love
and instead become someone who seeks love.

They forget that
the secret of love is that it is a gift,
and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart.

Love has its own time,
its own seasons,
and its own reasons for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it,
or reason it into saying.

You can only embrace it when it arrives
and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart
or from the heart of your lover,
there is nothing you can do
and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been
and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live
for a moment in your life.

Just be glad if and whenever Love finds you.

WiSEman